Darlyn Ty-Nilo, the president and managing director of Viviamo, Inc., which launched the Belle de Jour Power Planner, recently appeared on CHiNOY TV’s podcast, Rise Up with Janeena Chan.
Nilo knew early on that corporate life wasn’t for her. It led to some setbacks, but this didn’t stop her from taking a big risk in pursuing what she loves. Now, her company was able to expand globally with over 90,000 loyal “Bellas” around the world.
In her podcast episode episode, she takes us through her entrepreneurial and ultimately, successful journey, as she focused on how self-awareness plays a significant role in setting goals and being fulfilled in life.
Nilo offers 5 tips on how one can gain self-awareness to become successful:
1. Stop and pause.
“The pandemic really forced us to stop and pause and figure out ‘Where do you really want to be? Where do you really want to go? Are you even doing the things that you really want to do in your life?’ shared Nilo.
As the lockdown forced most of us into isolation, Nilo advised using the silence to our advantage. “One of the biggest learning from the pandemic is kasi we talked about pausing, so when you’re planning even before the pandemic is what it actually does is a deliberate and purposeful disconnection with social media — purposeful disconnection with the world so that you connect to yourself. So, the most important thing when you’re doing your goal-setting — and the reminder of the pandemic is — “How connected are you with yourself?”
2. Be genuine.
In a world that may have fixed societal expectations about you, it’s hard to be truthful with yourself. But being something you’re not won’t benefit you in the long run. Nilo shared that we can’t really do anything about societal expectations, but our future is ours to own and of course, plan.
“One of the problems we have with society is that when we set goals, we set goals that we think look good for society, or we set goals that we think our parents would want,” Nilo said. “We think this goal would be good if I set this goal because I think this would make me, I don’t know, more famous, more of — all of these things — and minsan, nakakadala talaga yung pressure e.”
“These things, hindi naman siya bad because, wala e, it’s just a product of their generation and their thinking about what’s best for us, but it’s not necessarily what’s authentic to us, what’s true. When you make your goals based on those [expectations], mawawala ka ng passion for them,” Nilo added.
3. Know your “why.”
“For one, you really have to understand your motivation as to why you set [your] goal up,” advised Nilo. “So it’s really an honest question with yourself. There’s this book called, I think, 6 Why’s, so you have to go underneath each ‘why,” [like for example], I want to have a sustainable income, let’s say, I don’t know, a hundred thousand a month. And then [you ask yourself], “Why?” and then sabi mo, “Uhm, I want to be able to buy the stuff that I like,” then, [you ask yourself again], “Why?” then you keep asking yourself, “Why?” as in six levels down siya and obviously it gets harder, right? Like on the first level [of] ‘why,’ parang ang dali lang siyang sagutin, but as you go deeper, parang you’re uncovering your deeper motivations.”
“It will be easier for you to avoid self-sabotage patterns if you really understand why you’re doing things at a deep level because it’s becoming clearer to you na, ‘I’m doing this because I want to be able to experience the world, travel around the world, for example. I really wanna grow myself e.’”
4. Revisit the connection to yourself.
Nilo offers some advice for using your planner: “Don’t be afraid of crossing things out,” stated Ty-Nilo. “Don’t be afraid of the messy things in your planner, in your goal. Don’t be afraid na when you challenge na ‘I’m not good enough. I got this challenge, and I failed in this challenge,’ right? So when that happens, you always just revisit the connection to yourself. ‘Is this really what I want?’
“And it should not be influenced by your fear of making mistakes and all of these things, that’s why it’s a constant affirmation that you’re allowing yourself to make mistakes then, you’re doing your best and you’re figuring things out as you go along.”
5. Monitor and measure your growth.
“One of the things that we are learning actively as we’re doing the work-from-home [set-up], what doesn’t get measured doesn’t get done,” said Nilo.
“Let’s say if you are not being OC about your sales, you’re not monitoring it, because parang, “Ah, nakakatamad naman, nai-che-check ko, ganyan ganyan, basta maibenta ko, okay na ako.” If you’re doing that, after a while, you don’t see it if your sales are going down, and you don’t figure out what you can do about it.”
“There are different ways on how you set your goals and how you measure it, and if you set it out, and then break it down to your schedule, then be clear with what you want to measure, then it will make things more sustainable.”
For more advice from some of the successful Chinoy personalities who have guested on Rise Up with Janeena Chan, check out our articles on Tim Yap, Dr. Geraldine Zamora, and Camille Co.